How I went from Stammering, No Communication & NO English Speaking Skills to Flawlessly Talking to Strangers for Hours in English without Stammering in last 1 Year

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Hey Folks! Nitish here. Writing my First ever Medium Story just because While Writing a Linkedin Post a few days back late at Night I somehow announced to Write a DETAILED VERSION of it in a Medium Article.

Before getting into the Main Story, It will be better to understand my Background for better clarity.

I was a kid who was brought up in a Small Town, Mahmudabad, which is around 50 KMs away from our Capital Lucknow( I am from U.P. in India)& found in Sitapur District.

I completed my School Education at a very Prestigious U.P. Board school of our District, Sita Inter College in Hindi Medium.

During 4th Class, somehow I got 3rd Rank in the whole School & from there I never looked back & ended up remaining a So-called School Topper till Class 12th. So I just remained focused on Academics only.

Not only that Strict Parenting( for my own betterment) resulted in me having zero friends in my Locality even since Childhood to the present moment of me writing this.

& to add the cherry to the Top, I was the youngest in the whole family & with no Siblings near me around my age.

All these things combined resulted in me having Stammering since Childhood & No Social & Communication Skills when I passed class 12th in March 2018 as I never got enough exposure.

But I will be honest: I never understood the Importance of having Social Skills & Communication Skills till I was in school so I never really worked upon it.

& though I was facing Stammering since Childhood I never took any solid actions to recover from it. I just kept blaming my Parents for not doing my medication for it whenever I used to stammer a lot & they used to get worried about my Future.

The pieces of the current story :

1. Seeing Video of My Friend Khushi
2. Joining Network Marketing
3. Practising Shiv Tandav Stotram
4. Using Buddy Talk app
5. Buying Art of Conversation Course by Prakhar Gupta

Seeing Video of My Friend Khushi

My whole Journey of Transformation Started once Lockdown was Declared in March 2020.

Do you recall the First 21 Days of Lockdown?

Once it was going on, My classmate & close friend Khushi made a video where she was having a fun discussion with her Younger sister just to have some memory of that period & uploaded it on Youtube.

She shared that video with me. In the video, They both were talking Flawlessly in English.

I do not know why but I took it on my Ego.

Somehow one part of myself who wanted me to Grow said to me- “If she can speak so fluent English, why can’t you? She is also just your Classmate right?

She is able to speak so well because she got the RIGHT ENVIRONMENT where she can talk to others in English. Be it doing Schooling from Amity International or having well-educated parents.

You can also do it If you just have the RIGHT ENVIRONMENT.”

So the main problem was having the RIGHT ENVIRONMENT to talk to people in English.

So I started approaching my College Friends who are also interested in Improving their English Skills so that we can form a Community & practice there.

But it all went in vain as none of them was as excited as me to improve their English. Only one close friend of mine agreed & we still have our Discussion mostly in English only.

Frankly speaking, It was not my friends fault too If they are not that excited. I was actually asking for help from the wrong Target Group(TG).

But when there is a will, there is a way. The way revealing in future.

Joining Network Marketing

I came to know about Network Marketing(MLM) in March last year. From May onwards I joined it & started working Actively. This was the turning point for me.

As I was daily talking to People for 2–3 hours for my Sales work, within the next 3 months I started seeing the improvement in my Stammering. People whom I talk to also noticed the same.

But whenever there was a big gap in talking to people I realised the big truth-

I need to keep talking to people daily to keep my Stammering at bay.

Practising Shiv Tandav Stotram

During March Mid last year, I got the guidance of Ayushmann Singh Sir to improve my Stammering. He suggested I watch a movie, King’s Speech. (It is a real story based movie where King George VI tries to overcome his stammering problem with the help of speech therapist Lionel Logue and makes himself worthy enough to lead his country through World War II.)

Though there were many good suggestions to improve Stammering, One Idea by Lionel hit me hard.

“Anyone who can shout Vowels at an open window can learn to deliver a Speech.”

But I got a bit creative in using it.

During that time Mahashivratri was going on. In a WhatsApp update by A.P. Sir, I heard SHIV TANDAV STOTRAM. It is having 18 Shlokas & pretty tough to pronounce unless you have great command over it.

It gave me a new insight into using the past Idea-

Instead of shouting Vowels at an open window, I can Shout complete Shiv Tandav Stotram while I am filling water from R.O.

It took me 1 month to memorize all 18 Shlokas & from May 2020 I started doing it Daily.

Using Buddy Talk app

Buddytalk App- The new way I found to Improve my English:

I got its suggestion in June mid by Akash.

It is basically a Social Voice App. You can have live audio & video chat with new people around the world to make new friends & practice English speaking.

Once you click on the “Talk Now” Button your call will get connected to any Random person with whom you can talk freely for the Next 20 minutes & mostly all users were using it to improve their English Speaking Skills only.

So I started using it extensively for daily 1 to 2 hours to improve my English.

I made some great friends there & I am still in touch with many of them through Whatsapp.

Buying Art of Conversation Course by Prakhar Gupta

Prakhar Gupta or Prakhar ke Pravachan- The Best person I found in 2020.

I bought his Art of Conversation(AOC) 1.0 course for 700 Rupees in August end. In that 10 modules course, I learnt a complete approach to have a great conversation with anyone.

Be it professional Networking/Sales/Talking to women/Social Confidence or Building Rapport the course helped me a lot.

So when I started talking to People for my Sales work in Network Marketing & Using the BuddyTalk app to Improve my English by applying all the techniques I learnt in Art of Conversation, I got all 3 benefits.

1. Improvement in Stammering
2. Communication Skills Development
3. Spoken English improvement

I am still Practising Shiv Tandav Stotram daily along with it, I keep finding ways to Talk to New People. Linkedin & Lunchclub are my Personal Favourite right now.

Now I can easily talk with any Stranger person who knows Hindi or English & build a great rapport with them. Having an amazing conversation with People which used to be one of the biggest Insecurities is now my Biggest Strength. I just love Talking to people now.

So If you want any Takeaway from my Story-

Take the Responsibility of making your own Life better on your own & start taking decisions to Improve it. The first step to getting success is getting started.

If I or anyone else on this Planet Earth can get Rid of their Biggest Insecurities & Weaknesses, then You also Can.

Just Believe in Yourself, get the Guidance of the Right People & Start Taking Consistent Action in that Direction.

Thanks for reading it till here.

If anyone wants any type of help to improve Stammering or Communication or English Speaking Problem, you can DM me on Twitter. I will be more than happy to help you out.

P.S. The BuddyTalk app has stopped functioning since March 2021. One can use Lunchclub as a platform right now for the same.

The Art of Conversation (AOC) 3.0 is available now at 2500 Rupees at learnwithprakhar website.

I have stopped doing Network Marketing & adding New people to my Team because of some personal reasons. It has nothing to do with Industry. Still, I will continue doing its amazing Healthcare products Sales work to build my Sales Skills along with keeping my Stammering at bay.

Nitish Mohan Batham is an Aspiring Growth Hacker who loves to Create Content around Books, personal Development, Marketing, Communication & Social Skills. I am a passionate reader, thinker & writer. I am also a Sales & Start-up Enthusiast.

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